Sex Conversation Starters to Improve Intimacy in Relationships — Dr. J. | Donna Jennings, Ph.D.

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What is a sex conversation starter? Sometimes people just don’t know how to begin a conversation related to sex. That is so understandable. Those conversations are intimate and vulnerable. We don’t exactly learn conversation skills at school or at home, much less about discussing anything with sexual content. Without formal learning, we use what we know and it could trip us up. We may focus on how the other person is going to feel versus how it is to be clear with yourself and share. While attending behaviors and listening behaviors are important, so is being clear about what you want to bring forward. This is true for any sex conversation, as a partner, a parent, or a family member.

Stop and consider all the points on the life continuum where you might want or need to have a conversation about sex. Markers of life changes. Birth. Puberty. First Crush. First anything sexual. Menopause. Andropause. The point is, that you will have conversations over your life span. So, if you put in the work, it will work when you want to share vital content with those who are important to you.

All first steps might be hard, but if you start with a plan and information, you are well on your way to moving the conversation along. I’ll break this up into three parts and end with…